I await the sunrise and as the day begins I feel I am at the edge of time. The waves of the bay gather at my feet. The morning sun hits the water and bends just enough to throw a mauve pink glow in my direction. I think to myself that on this autumn morning no one travels along this way but I.
The sky, the water, the clouds have made the sun forget it should shine. The cool wind turns into rain and as I look towards the distant city my autumn grows deeper.
If I had a wish it would be to meet my parents and see how they were before I was born and observe their expectations and wishes for me. As I get older the morning mirror I stare into shows a mixture of their faces, it’s uncanny.
Whether I have 2 days, 2 months or 20 years I know I’ll never have enough time to do all the things I want.
I have just completed a course called ‘Conscious Ageing: Passage to Wisdom’
The course, given by Dr Edna Ross, BSc(Hons) MA PhD (Psychology), provides practical guidance to acquiring the qualities of an elder.
It gave me a new perspective on ageing and the inevitability of death. As usual I’m back doing what makes me happy by the bay at my favourite fishing spot. It also gives me time to reflect on the last stage of my life.
No time to dwell on ‘what has it all meant? or what is my purpose?’ I reckon I’ve got just about the right amount of time to live life to the fullest and hopefully die happy. I wish all my friends the same fate.
FOR THE COURSE OUTLINE check here
Keep a journal
Analyse cycles of life
Remember significant people in your life and acknowledge what they have done for you
Use meditation to create time for yourself
Have a peace of mind check list
Have a living will
Consider a farewell letter
If you want to die happy, don’t put off things you’re planning.
Love with your whole heart.
Be kind and respectful to others.
Let your friends and family how you feel about them.
There’s no time like the present to tell those close to you how important they are.
Do what makes you happy. If you want to die happy, you have to live happy. Don’t waste your days doing something that doesn’t make you happy.
I made some observations during the course and have created the following lists. I hope they are of some use, maybe you can add some ideas of your own.
SOME HINTS ON HOW TO KEEP HAPPY
Take the good with the bad
Live to your own agenda
Do things that make you happy
Be less critical of yourself
Don’t be a pessimist
Work less, accumulate less, have more family time
Make time for friends
Have coping strategies
Choose action over inaction
SOME HINTS ON HOW TO LIVE LONGER
Wear sun block
Drink plenty of water
Don’t over indulge
Eat fish especially salmon
Avoid steaming hot drinks
Eat dark chocolate
Have a glass of red wine each day
Eat fruit and vegetables
Have good relationships
Reduce causes of stress
Try not to be fearful
Smile, laugh and hug
Have a purpose
Be safe, don’t do risky things
Have a yearly medical check up
Do regular exercise
Have a good sleep pattern
Keep your mind active
Go meet some elders …….those over 87-100 see what they have to say